Tuesday, 31 March 2009

Who? When? Why? Where? What? How?

Isn’t “who” the most important thing?
I met him, and his huge grin, in a sweaty club in East London nearly six years ago. Disreputable as that sounds (and we were both very worse for wear) next day we hung out in the early summer sunshine telling each other everything about anything. Turns out we had been set up – a very old friend had asked me to the club saying, with a cheeky wink, that he had lots of handsome friends who’d do for me! I laughed him off, but as it happens my boy was his housemate and now that old friend takes full credit for what followed.
At the start of that long hot party filled summer, my new boy said to me “we’re going to have so much fun together!” I’m not one to easily fall in love and have habitually kept a guard up but it was as if he assumed we’d make this work and always be together. He’s the most natural, unaffected, open person I have ever met and he believes everyone else is the same – it’s impossible not to drop your guard, forget all the rules, stop playing games and love him.
So that’s our “how we met” story - it may not put Mills and Boon out of business but it’s romantic to me and I feel lucky and loved!

We’ve not rushed anything (neither of us are rushers) but enjoyed each stage of our relationship until the next stage feels due. We moved in with friends four years ago and last year got our own lovely little garden flat just big enough for the two of us (and all his records!) I won’t say his asking me was a surprise as we have talked about marriage for years but the moment he proposed was. I’ll save that story for another time – this post is getting saccharine enough!

So when and where? In line with our ‘not rushing’ life theme, we’ve set the date for June 2010. This is partly because we want to get married in Italy and trying organise that from London in the space of five months seemed too much like hard work! We’d rather enjoy the process and not have a stressful time of it.

and Italy because – well, lots of reasons but mostly because my parents have a house there and it’s a place we have shared and loved and always imagined would be where we’d get married so we never really considered anything else.

[image author's own]
and Why? – LOVE! (see above)
What and how? that’s what this blog is all about I guess....

Monday, 30 March 2009

Why blog?

Why blog?

I’m not really sure – I’m particularly not sure I’m entitled to! The blogs I like best are those written by creative and/or artistic people. They are not just about the minutiae of their everyday lives but give the reader something different; either by sharing lovely pictures and design, witty or beautiful writing or an interesting or funny perspective on life. Those are talents I’m not sure I posses – a great appreciator of talent and beauty, yes, but not a purveyor.

However – I’m engaged (woo hoo!) and although I know this far from marks me out as different or original in Blogsville it’s a special time for me. And so I have two main reasons for keeping a diary of sorts during this period:

1) as record of the process to look back on after it is over, (never to be repeated!) hopefully with pleasure and the occasional hind-sighted smile

2) an engagement by it’s nature is a period of looking forward to something and I always regret those times when I have lived too much for the future and haven’t taken in the moment. Hopefully by keeping a diary, I’ll prompt myself to relish these moments as they happen
Who knows what is ahead - this might even help me keep from turning into Bridzilla! (or maybe it’ll have the reverse effect*). Welcome side-effects would be teaching myself to organise my thoughts and to keep my writing concise and clear. We can but dream ….

* A wee tickle of doubt I have about blogging is that I sometimes suspect diary keeping can make people more introverted and self-absorbed – hmmm....?

** hence the narcissi – although they have also just all come out in my garden and smell so divine! hooray for spring and being betrothed!!